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Apparently There was a Road

November 4, 2026 by Allison Eliason Leave a Comment

The Rancher told me to head up the hill to deliver salt blocks. Simple enough, except he neglected to mention where the road was. Sometimes ranch work requires a little more figuring out than the directions suggest.

“Just head up the hill. It’s by the spring-fed water trough.”

Those were my directions for delivering salt blocks to the pasture as we turned out some cattle earlier this spring. Simple enough, except that while I had a general idea of where the water trough was, I had absolutely no idea how to get there.

This isn’t exactly an unusual situation for me. There are plenty of times on the ranch when I know what needs to be done but don’t necessarily know how to do it. Or, in this case, how to get to where I need to be. I like having a plan, preferably one with details, even if it’s just a few. Unfortunately, ranch plans often consist of little more than figuring things out as we go.

With a load of salt blocks, I headed toward the pasture in our rusty, trusty side-by-side, where I was supposed to meet The Rancher. I had been to the trough before, although it had been a while—a year or two, is all—but I felt reasonably confident I could recognize the area once I got there.

That confidence lasted until I drove through the gate.

Immediately, I realized I had no idea which direction to go. I looked around for tire tracks, knowing The Rancher had already driven through and figuring I could simply follow his path. But there weren’t any obvious tracks to follow. Undeterred, I pulled out my phone, hoping the map might show a road or at least help me pinpoint where the trough was located. That wasn’t particularly helpful either. There was barely even a cow trail to suggest which direction I ought to head.

I knew the trough was somewhere uphill, and I remembered enough of the country to have a general idea of where it might be. I also knew that sitting at the gate wasn’t going to get the salt delivered. So, after considering my options, I decided to see if I could find my own way up.

The hillside was brushy, rocky and steep, with tall weeds that made it almost impossible to see what was underneath them. There wasn’t much of a trail, which meant I had to pay close attention to where I was driving. I wasn’t interested in finding a hidden rock with the underside of the side-by-side.

I slowly worked my way uphill, looking for a route that seemed reasonably safe, or at the very least not unsafe. At the same time, I kept watching for signs of the spring. I figured the greener grass around the water would act as a sort of beacon. If I could find that, I would know I was headed in the right direction.

And true enough, I eventually spotted the trough. Better yet, I spotted The Rancher standing beside it, both nearly camouflaged by the overgrown weeds. I picked my way across the remaining hillside and pulled up beside him, feeling pretty good about having successfully reached our destination in one piece with all the salt still on board.

He was on the phone when I arrived, explaining why my call for directions had gone completely unanswered. Also, nothing new. I waited for him to finish his conversation, ready to unload the salt and get on with the job.

When he hung up, he looked at me and asked, “Why didn’t you take the road?”

The road?

I figured there was a perfectly good way to get to the trough, but I had managed to miss it entirely. I explained that I couldn’t find a road, so I had simply made my own way up the hill. Laughing to myself, I thought that, having not given me better directions or made himself available to help, The Rancher didn’t really have much room to criticize how I got there. He should just be thankful I did.

It wasn’t long before I had dumped my load of salt, he had the trough up and running, and it was time to head home. I figured I could either take my long, circuitous route home or follow The Rancher and learn the “right” way back. Having now traveled it, I would suggest that the term “road” was being used rather generously. Still, it was considerably easier than the route I had chosen.

The entire adventure probably took 15 or 20 minutes, maybe even less. It certainly wasn’t anything remarkable in the grand scheme of ranch work. We delivered the salt, nobody got stuck, and I learned where the road was for next time.

But I’ve thought about that little trip several times since.

I sometimes struggle with the uncertainty that comes with being given a job I haven’t done before. I want to do things correctly, and I don’t particularly enjoy the feeling of not knowing what I’m doing. There is a certain comfort in tagging alongside The Rancher, watching how he approaches a problem and following his lead. I’ve learned an enormous amount that way, and there is still plenty I need to learn.

But I don’t want to spend my ranching life as someone who simply rides along. I want to contribute, take on some of the responsibility and be someone who can be counted on to get things done. That means occasionally accepting a job without knowing every detail of how I’m going to accomplish it.

I wonder how often we hold ourselves back because we aren’t sure of the best way to do something. We wait for better instructions, more experience or someone who knows what they’re doing to show us the way. There’s value in being prepared and learning from others, but eventually we have to put what we know to use and trust ourselves to figure out the rest.

Of course, that doesn’t mean charging ahead without thinking. There are plenty of situations where guessing your way through a job would be dumb or downright dangerous. Knowing when to stop and ask for help is important. But sometimes we know more than we give ourselves credit for.

I didn’t know where the road was that day, but I knew where I needed to end up. I could recognize the country, look for signs of the spring and choose a route that seemed safe. It wasn’t the most efficient way to get there, but it was enough to get the job done.

Next time I head up that hillside, I’ll take the road. I know where it is now, and I see no reason to fight my way through the brush again. But I’m glad I made that first trip. I learned a little more about trusting my own judgment, and I got the job done without having someone show me every turn. Besides, if The Rancher wants me to take the road next time, he might consider telling me where it is.

The Ranch Wife’s Job Description

October 20, 2026 by Allison Eliason Leave a Comment

I never received an official job description when I married The Rancher, but apparently I’ve qualified for everything from feeding buddy and security guard to personal assistant and supernatural sorting-gate operator. The responsibilities are many, the notice is usually short, and the benefits are still under review.

There are all sorts of ranch wives. Some work alongside their husbands every day, some have careers away from the ranch, and others are involved in different aspects of the operation. There isn’t one particular way to be a ranch wife, and there certainly isn’t a list of duties that comes with the title.

At least, I’ve never been given one.

In our marriage, I don’t have any assigned ranch responsibilities. I don’t have to feed cows, fix fences or spend my days working cattle. But when I choose to join the crew, I’ve discovered that I apparently qualify for a surprising number of positions, most of which I don’t remember applying for.

The first qualification is availability. Immediate availability, to be precise.

When The Rancher calls and asks if I can come help, he generally means right now. Occasionally, I get enough warning to put on my boots and gloves and finish whatever I happen to be doing. More often, I’m expected to abandon my current project and report for duty before the opportunity to help has passed.

He might think he’s given me plenty of notice. I might disagree.

Then there are the calls that aren’t really invitations at all. “Come block the road to turn the cows RIGHT NOW!”

He’d better hope I’m not in the shower.

Once I’ve successfully reported for duty, the actual assignment can vary considerably. If we’re horseback, The Rancher is usually kind enough to catch and saddle my horse. I appreciate that. Apparently, my portion of the arrangement is unsaddling and putting the horses away afterward.

At the squeeze chute, I’ve somehow become the unofficial supervisor of syringe dosages. Whether I filled the syringes or am even the person administering the shots doesn’t seem to matter. I’m still expected to know what they’re set at and make sure they’re correct.

I also serve as his personal assistant, although I’m not sure that title adequately describes the position. My duties include maintaining a mental record of his ideas, plans and dreams, interpreting them into something resembling an actual plan, and then recalling the details whenever he needs them.

I’m also responsible for locating things within his filing system, which would be considerably easier if I understood the filing system. Naturally, whatever he’s looking for is something he actually needed yesterday.

Scheduling is another responsibility I’ve acquired. I try to keep track of what’s happening on the ranch, but the system works best when The Rancher remembers to tell me what’s happening on the ranch. I’m generally content with a loose description of the day, provided I know when he needs a lunch packed or whether our evening plans are about to become ranch plans.

Speaking of lunch, I’ve developed the habit of watching the clock when he hasn’t come in. My first question is whether it’s a good thing or a bad thing that he’s running late. My second is whether he’s coming home to eat or if lunch needs to be delivered to a tractor somewhere.

A well-fed rancher is generally a happier, more efficient rancher. I’ve found this to be useful information.

When nobody else is available, I also qualify as his feeding buddy. This involves being the designated one out in the cold so I can open gates and cut net wrap or strings off hay bales while he sits in the warm cab of the tractor or pickup. I suppose someone has to do it, and apparently that someone is me.

During calving, I’ve occasionally been assigned the position of security guard. If The Rancher decides to tag a calf, I get to stand between him and an all too overprotective mother cow and make sure she doesn’t interfere.

Personally, I think I’d rather tag the calf.

I’m also happy to help in the shop, although my mechanical qualifications are limited. I can hand him tools, hold things in place and occasionally offer suggestions that are probably best ignored. Nobody should expect me to diagnose an engine problem.

Fence building is another area where I’ve developed a few specialties. I’m particularly good at hiking the fence line and attaching wire clips. And when we’re building fence with wood posts, I call dibs on the staple gun. There are some jobs worth claiming before somebody else does.

I also operate a shuttle service. If The Rancher needs a ride because he’s left a vehicle somewhere, has to move equipment or has managed to get stranded by something that quit running, I’m generally the person he calls.

Trailer backing assistance is included in the package. I stand behind the trailer, directing him toward the loading chute, alley or whatever narrow opening he’s trying to reach without hitting anything. It’s a job that requires clear communication, patience and a shared understanding of hand signals. We don’t always have all three. Actually, we never have all three.

Then there’s the sorting gate. Not just any sorting gate, but the last one in the alley, where the wrong calf absolutely cannot be allowed through.

Other people might accidentally let one slip past. I, however, am apparently expected to possess supernatural gatekeeping abilities.

And, of course, there are the days when I’m the crew cook, trying to feed a collection of hungry people between jobs. I enjoy feeding a crew, but there are times when I wish takeout was considerably closer. The same goes for the laundry. If you’ve ever washed ranch clothes after a particularly dirty day, you understand why I sometimes wish the nearest laundromat weren’t so far away.

One other qualification I’ve developed is the ability to distinguish between being yelled at and being yelled to. The Rancher loves me, and he isn’t yelling at me. He just occasionally communicates certain things to his wife at a volume and in a manner he probably wouldn’t use with anybody else.

It’s an important distinction. At least, that’s what I’m told.

Of all the positions I’ve held, though, I think my favorite is being his partner. His roping partner, to be specific. I’m certainly not the best hand with a rope, and there are plenty of people who could probably do the job better. But The Rancher keeps choosing me anyway. I’m not sure whether that’s a testament to his confidence in me or his willingness to put up with my mistakes. Either way, I appreciate that he wants me there.

The funny thing about all these jobs is that I really do enjoy being part of the ranch. I like being useful, working alongside my husband and knowing that I can contribute in ways that make his day easier. Most of the time, I’m happy to drop what I’m doing and join the crew, even if I could use a little more warning.

But after considering all the positions I’ve held over the years, I think it’s time we revisit my job description.

I’m not necessarily asking for a raise. I’d just like a little advance notice, an occasional lunch break, and perhaps permission to let one calf through the wrong gate without it becoming a federal offense.

Hello! I'm Allison, The Rancher's Wife! There's nothing I love more than being out on the ranch with my husband and kids. Join me for a look at what goes on here at the ranch and the life being a rancher's wife!

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